How can 50 degrees feel so cold? It is 50 outside and it does not feel warm. I know it's all relative but to be sitting with a sweatshirt (long sleeve) and a fleece vest on and still be cold is a bit disconcerting for close to the end of April.
Cheers to Michigan State Senator Mallory McMorrow for her response to the lie by another elected official who used her smear against McMorrow for fundraising! If you haven't seen it, check it out on YouTube. It's something we all need to hear.
So far, you have looked at how you spend your time as well as deciding what allotment goes where. In other words, what is required, what is needed and what is desired.
What did you find out? If you're like most folks (especially women) you found that most of your time was taken up by required and needed with very little left over for desired, right?
That's not healthy. Putting yourself last is something that women have been trained to do for years by culture, by advertising, even by family. It's time to realize that by not replenishing yourself, you will have little to share with others including your family.
Let's look at how things stack up for you. Required is required. Where to look for time for yourself is in what's needed. Let's consider housecleaning.
My mother was a white glove dirt checker. In other words, the house had to be perfectly clean and straight. When I married and had children, I felt like I needed to keep a spotless house even with four children.
It dawned on me one day how much time was I was investing in keeping the house spotless and decided to change right then and there. I still keep the house straight and clean, but not to white glove testing. Enough to make me feel comfortable. My studio is another matter...you would find it a mess more often than not.
But, what about you? Can you delegate housecleaning duties to others in the family. Kids pick up toys before going to bed for instance. Maybe taking care of the kitchen after dinner, or even making a meal.
Look for ways that jobs can either be delegated or dispensed with (does it really need to be spotless) so that you can add time for what's desired.
Another area to look at is how much time do you volunteer? If it is truly something you want to do, then by all means continue. But if it not an activity you want to pursue, considering giving it up. And when someone asks you to volunteer, give yourself time to consider if you want to do it. And if not, decline the offer gently.
Where else can you find time for yourself?
Talk with you tomorrow...